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writes: I was sexually molasted as a young child(4-5 years old) by a guy named X. He went to my old church. I didnt tell my parents until I was 24. They were a little upset with me, but wondered why I didn't tell them before. I guess its because I was scared. Is this why I have had trouble in my past relationships with not only friends, but family, relationships. I forgive the guy totally, but its always in my mind. What can I do to totally forget about it. Also is this what may have caused my adhd as a child, now as an adult Add? Thanks a bunch. Reply to this Question
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reader, bridget +, writes (25 March 2006):
 Hey there pet..
Yes you are right, Abuse victims find it 10 times more difficult with Relationships than a painfully shy individual has.. And these individuals find it really difficult to make a go at Relationships.. Because they are frightened that the same thing will occur again and it is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of..
You say that you "totally forgive" the guy, why is that??
(Just Curious)
Most people cant bring themselves to forgive people in that particular sense and they hide it away as if it didnt happen, but you must have an incredible amount of willpower to be able to forgive the guy who stole your childhood..
And thats exactly what happened.. Children are vulnerable and innocent, and some people can and (have done) taken advantage of that..
I suggest you get yourself some prefessional help to deal with the Relationship and Family problems you feel are not connecting properly.. This is a common problem with victims in your case So dont feel bad..
Dont feel ashamed about not telling your parents sooner, Its not an easy problem to come out and admit to and it takes a very long time and an incredible amount of pain for the person to admit something like that to themselves than to anyone else in the Family or Friend Circle...
I wish you all the best of Luck..
Take Care and keep your "Head Held High"
Jacqueline
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (25 March 2006):
 What you have gone through is awfull, but you have come out the other end as a survivor, and yes the trauma you suffered as a child will be what has led you to have ADHD and now ADD.
You need proffessional help if you have not already had it and this will help you work through any issues you still have and maybe dont know you have.
We hold a lot of nasty experiences in our sub consciouse mind and this until unlocked and worked through can continue to hurt us without us knowing.
When you get some help and work through all the issues including your parents responses to your telling them then you will almost certainly have relationship troubles.
You can with help overcome this trauma and have a happy life, the one that you deserve.
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