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writes: Ok so here's the deal, I met my boyfriend 11 months ago and for the first few months everything was lovely, however he has a twin, which has transcended into this huge problem and I dont know why! he is 19 and the boys are inseperable, I dont know how to conduct a proper relationship if I have to compete for time with his twin. recently the problem has worsened and now not only does his twin barely talk to me but his whole family have rejected me. I love this guy dearly and when we are away from his family everything is wonderful, but his family seem to be at the root of our arguments despite my boyfriend saying that its all in my head. I tired of fighting but dont want to loose him. help? Reply to this Question
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (25 March 2006):
 Oftern twins have a special relationship that can for anyone be difficult to break through.
Your fella is trying to keep everyone happy, his brother is jealouse of your relationship as they are so close and he is finding it hard to have to share and vie for his attention and affection, the family are upset as the twin is miserable and so they are defensive and trying to shut you out, and they may not want to let go of there son.
You have been patient and understanding for 11 months and now is the time to start rebelling and tell your fella that he has to sort this out and take your feelings seriously or the relationship will have to end.
Giving anyone an ultimatum is a gamble but lets face it very soon if you dont you will have no relationship anyway.
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reader, xxxXAmbaXxxx +, writes (25 March 2006):
hi i suggest you try sitting him down away from his family and tell him ow you feel once he knows maybe you and him could both talk to the family about it arrange a couple days each week wich mean its just you and him time...like go out for dinner or do something nice e.c.t.Why not ty bonding with his family 1st so you can earn a bit of there trust.On the days he is out with his twin why not spend time with a few girly matesim sure doing this will sort most things out between you.
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