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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Recently, I have decided to try to get busy socially after over 2 years of pretty much doing nothing. My ex left me over 2 yrs ago, so I figure it's time. About 4 weeks ago, I found out what he's been doing lately, and that made me feel worse, it made the obsession stronger, so I pushed myself even harder to go out and "have a good time".Now, I have pretty much figured out that my ex is long over me. Everyone has told me so. He only contacts me once in a while to say hi just to be friendly. He's like that, that's his personality. It's not in any way a come on. So I went out this weekend, and guess who walked into the bar? Yes, him. He sat a few seats down and I have no real idea if he saw my friend I or not. I did not approach him. I did not talk to him or make any moves. I just chatted with my friend, pretending to be casual although I was shaking with fear. I got up from the bar and went over to the pool table area. I looked back and my ex was looking at his cell phone, maybe or maybe not aware that I was there.He left and did not come back. My friend and I stayed at the bar all night and I tried to have a good time. But all I can think of is him.The worst part was looking at him and realizing I am right. I am still in love with him. I am not just wishing for the past. I wanted to go up to him, but it's a good thing I'm a nervous person. I know he would have rejected me.There's no good answer for this one. Go out again and have fun? I think not. Even if I never run into him again, this has set me back more than ever. I will never get over him now. I have been sitting, praying he'd text message me for 2 days now. And he hasn't and probably won't ever again. (the last time he texted to say hello was 6 weeks ago) So now what, should I just live with the pain? It's worse than ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): ur definatly still in love with him. and idk what to do really, the best thing u can do for ur self is look for someone else. ur jurt hurting urself thinking about him like that. hang out with ur friends and with time u will eventually get over him
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