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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I’ve known this guy for about 4 months now. We usually see each other just at church every Sunday, but we sometimes hang out with a group and go to dinner and/or a movie. I usually end up walking/sitting beside him and I developed a crush on him within the first month of knowing him. Last night we were with a group again, doing the whole dinner and movie thing, and we were seriously lagging behind the rest of the group. I feel comfortable with him. I really like spending time with him. He even waited at the bus stop with me after the movie while everyone else went their separate ways, but that might have mostly been because he lived close by and I had to take a half hour bus ride home by myself while everyone else traveled together for the most part. He’s waited at the bus stop for me before, mostly because I was unfamiliar with the area at the time. But, I don’t know, we sort of end up together but I have no idea if that’s just me drifting towards him…I don’t want to make this awkward, but I want to know if there could be more. I’m not sure if he’d make the first move even if he was interested in that way. I’m a little bit older, plus he comes from a sort of… shy culture. I’m not sure he’d come right out and say, “Do you want to go out with me?” or try holding my hand, or anything like that. What are your thoughts? I feel like it could be terribly awkward if I do a little inquiry in the wrong way, being that we’d still have to interact at church. Advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2014): I think the best way to approach this without feeling awkward is to try a friendship approach first and see where his head is at. You can ask the "would you" questions and that should give you an inclination if the two of you are even a possibility.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 June 2014):
How about the old fashioned way: ask him out. There's no reason a "no thanks" has to be awkward.
"I'm sorry I see you more as a friend." is the likely "no" answer. Nothing to worry about.
The yes answer would be worth the chance wouldn't it?
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