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writes: My most recent ex boyfriend was a liar and a cheater. He was super good looking and charming so I always fell for whatever he said and couldn't tell what was really going on. I am only just now starting to see what really happened. It's been 2 months now and we've had no contact whatsoever. However, I talk to other guys but a lot seem fake and I feel like they just tell me what I want to hear, like he did.How can I trust guys again and find someone genuine?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 February 2013):
 it's only been two months.... give yourself time to heal.
where are you meeting new folks... maybe it has to do with how and where you meet them... on a dating site... yeah folks will say what you want to hear.
what about a place of worship if you are religious...
or do you have any hobbies where you could meet men to be friends with and rebuild your faith in the male sex?
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reader, Serpico +, writes (11 February 2013):
If you take out the pain of the cheater on your future bfs, you simply wont have many long term future bfs.
It happened to me - and I left. Not saying what happened to you was fair, but its not the fault of anyone who comes after him. Dont punish people for things they have not done.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (10 February 2013):
 Most people have been in your shoes. We fall in love and we overlook what should've been obvious because -- well we were in love and assumed the person we were in love with had our best intentions in mind. Don't beat yourself up, you are human and you are learning about how some men operate.
Give yourself some time to get over the anger and resentment. What you are feeling is normal and not all guys are jerks. Right now, you may be hypersensitive to people's flaws because you are projecting your boyfriend's past onto new guys you meet. It is okay to be on guard but you'll wind up bitter and discouraged if you pre-assume that every guy is a weasel.
You are at a tough age right now and the dating life is not easy. Guys are going through the same thing too: they are getting taken advantage of by women as well as dealing with rejection.
Also, take a look at where you are meeting guys. If you are in a bar, where drinking is involved, expect to meet players. If you hang out with the dogs don't be surprised if you get fleas. However, if you live life and go out and become active in a variety of activities, you should be able to meet genuinely interesting and well-intentioned guys.
Eddie
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2013): I haven't been in your shoes, I met my husband at the age of 15 he was 18 and we've been together ever since. Have three kids and still in love 24 years later.But I've had friends who have been treated terrible and my advice is he wasn't for you .. And it's not your fault either.. You are still very young and mr right is out there somewhere. You're just gonna have to kiss a few toads to get the one you want... Look at every new relationship like this, take it slow, don't wear your heart on your sleeve, be bit mysterious as in don't tell him everything and don't run every time he clicks his fingers.. Make him work to be with you... Be flirty funny and hard to get (do not sleep with him until you get a wee engagement ring) lol And just be you sweetie and it will happen .
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reader, kim.2013  +, writes (10 February 2013):
the only thing i can advice you is that....take your time,don,t fall for every single guy who seems charming and caring . and remember actions speak louder then words...its easy to promise or say many things but hard to do....dear trust is not something which happens .i have been through the same experiences,i learned my lesson.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (10 February 2013):
Right now you are feeling hurt but this will pass just give it a little time. With your past experience you will be more careful and choose more careful. Hopefully you will meet that special man .Best Luck Nora B.
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