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writes:I found out I liked this girl (she is basically my best friend, and she has a boyfriend), started off as a general attraction to her personality, I didn't feel anything more. gradually over a few weeks it got worse and more obsessive. I told her hoping that would make it easier, instead it got more awkward and I got more and more annoyed and angry.What made it worse is I played a little trick on her (crush007, you guys know that? if not google it) and I found out she has had sex (I haven't) (-- something she had lied to me about when playing truth or dare.) Now I had always viewed her as younger, more innocent etc etc than me (she is a year older) and this fact flipped that on its head, and since finding this out and when I said I liked her and opened up about all that, when ever I talk to her she sounds condesending, like she is talking to a little brother, I feel really inferior to her now.And this lead me to where I am now, instead of nice feelings when I think about her/talk to her/see her, I have feelings of pure hate, I am full of fury and I really really want to hurt something, I am afraid these feeling will evolve into me wanting to hurt her. basically I want to have never known her, I want her gone and me to have no memory of her...I am slighly scared of how I feel atm... what should I do... get professional help? or wait it out...(At this time I have removed her from my msn and phonebook, and told her I don't really want to talk to her, and she is kinda leaving me alone (after calling me up the otherday which brought back all the memories) but when I go back to uni and see her every day... I don't think I will be able to cope)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThing is she will be there everyday when I go back to uni... she still thinks she is my best friend...
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reader, nightgurl  +, writes (17 June 2010):
 focus on a new girl i had the same problem but with a guy it worked for me
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