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writes:How can i eliminate lust?I mean...i'm single, i always have been, And i understand i never have a chance with anyone ever. And talking to friends when i like someone just ends up with them building my hopes up...and you know - the bigger they come the harder they fall.How can i prevent myself from falling in lust with girls, so i can get on with everything else? Reply to this Question
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reader, hass  +, writes (28 January 2009):
You must always think girls as who they are, not as a sex object. That's the most single important thing i think which is at the root of the way we view girls. Remember that love is not lust. Love CAN exist without lust overwhelming it. Save your lust when you're married ; it's worth the wait.HasriMalaysia
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): thanks people.
i'm glad you took the time to respond.
i do have lots of activities, but it's when i'm at home by myself i get filled with rage.
I avoid porn. and i'm agnostic, i can't try religion.
I have lots to keep me occupied, but none of it lasts 24/7.
Either way i find myself miserable by the time i go to bed, unless i'm at a sleepover or a party.
I'm trying to supress my emotions on a crush at the moment...i thought we had a date, but she postponed for at least 2 weeks.
i don't have my hopes up, and am being incredibly patient and seeing what happens. i'm not forcing any situations, as i believe in fate. But i just know that this isn't going to work out how i would like....it never does, and never will
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (7 January 2008):
 You cannot totally eliminate lust but you can try to control it. Find some meaningful indoor or outdoor activities or hobbies that will take your brain away from those lustful thoughts.
Don't watch those pornographic or online smuts or sex magazines.
Keep your thoughts clean and pure.
Try religion.
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (4 January 2008):
 Things will naturally level out as your horemone levels settle.
You are under a torrent of horemones at your age and that can cause all sorts of trouble for you.
Another thing is that you are still realatively young. Lots of things will gradually change for you.
I can say with the utmost confidence, everything will be fine for you. Just be patient. I know, sometimes easier said than done but it will all work out. Doc
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