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female
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anonymous
writes:I'm a 25yr old women and I'm attracted towards androgynous/tomboy women. But I'm straight.2 weeks before While I was at train station I saw this lady with sharp boyish personality and I went on noticing her continuously, she was attractive and fascinating. Then I went ahead and stood next to her. The train arrived I was just behind her in the line but I couldn't got in and she was there inside. As she turned around we had eye contact and that was so awkward for me. But inside my mind I hated it that I couldn't get inside.Now I shared this with my 2 of my close friends. Before they could jump on the conclusion calling me homosexual they asked few question and I answered them :-1. Can you think of spending your life with such women (tomboy)?Me : yes2. Can you get sexually involved with such women ?Me: No I cannot even think of it. It is not at all turn on for me. In this case I'm more into men3. Can you be emotionally attached to that women?Me: might be. Just like friends4. Would you be jealous if she is flirting with other women when she is with you?Me: I really don't know. I wont be jealous or angry for sure but I wont be even that carefree on her.After knowing my answer what they said is I was straight and might be that's my mind is looking for some odd people to get along with for a change.But then I even follow a few more tomboys over social networking sites and I feel attracted towards them. It feels like a urge to get with them but without physical intimacyTalking about my nature, yes I'm too bit of tomboy but even girly. I do have lot of friends including guys and girls I have good relationship with all of them. So I'm not more of girly types but bit of boyish and still I'm attracted towards such women. I'm not understanding my mind and my behaviour. And this behaviour of mine I had noticed 2 yrs back.
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reader, Billy Bathgate  +, writes (9 February 2017):
You are not straight. You may not be gay but you are definitely not straight. Stop worrying about labeling yourself and focus on living your life and finding who you are. If you are attracted to a certain type of person pursue that type of person and see where it leads you. I hope it leads you to happiness and love. But please stop worrying about what society and your friends think.
To life!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 December 2016):
 We humans just love to put labels on things. The easy truth is that we are attracted to some people, not all. You are straight, you say, but you are not attracted to ALL MEN, no matter age, appearance, health etc. You aren't. So then, you aren't 100% just "straight" either. It's not enough that they are of the opposite gender, lol. There is more needed for you to be attracted.
And, if a woman happens to inhabit all the qualities you are attracted to, that are mostly found in certain men, then why wouldn't you also be attracted to her?
It doesn't make your straight or gay. It makes you capable of being attracted to others. Instead of thinking that you must be either or, you should remember that in fact, none of us are attracted to another because of gender alone. If it was so easy, looks would not matter, age would not matter, health would not matter etc. If all it took was that he had a penis, then you would be attracted to every man you saw. But you're not, because what makes you find someone attractive is in fact not their gender, but a list of attractive qualities that you have in your head.
I would say... you are quality-sexual, hehe. If that makes sense. If they can check off a certain number of points from your mental list, you are attracted to them. And while this list makes you attracted to men 99% of the time, there's that 1% where a woman also fulfills enough points on your list.
Did that make sense to you?
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