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writes: I feel in great despair. recently a friend used me badly and lied to me a lot. my work colleagues have also seen him for his true colurs but im sure theres something wrong with me because he done such a good job of lying and deceitfulness. i have never been able to confront him therefore the anger builds up and i keep mentioning him at work. people know what hes done and know how angry i am and sympathise but i worry theyre patiencw is wearing thin. hes also still doing dodgy stuff and getting away with it ;(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 May 2012):
 Believe me there is nothing wrong with you, so do not be blaming yourself in anyway. People who are like this are very good at hiding who they truly are and they can put on a good act just to get what they want. You are the victim here, it doesn't mean that you should have saw it coming. He is the one that has abused your trust here and he should be the one made to pay.
I know that you are hurt and angry at the moment, but I feel you are right that your colleagues will start getting bored off this. I am sure they are sympathetic, but this anger will not go away until you let it all out. The right thing for you to do, is to go face to face with this man and ask him straight out why he done those things to you, yes it takes courage but you will also feel so much better for doing it. If he is still behaving badly with others well then warn them about him, but just be thankful you know what he is truly like and you have escaped.
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