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writes:I've recently started dating this amazing guy, who to me is perfect in every way. It's early days but I really do like him and he says he feels the same way to me. The thing is though I can't keep a hold of my insecurities. I've had a really bad break up recently and before that I've had some guys who have really messed me about. I honestly don't think this guy is like that nor is likely to do that.. but I still can't get over my insecurities and feel that if I'm not careful that they'll ruin the relationship.I've spoken to him many a time about this and he has just told me, quote "chill, I'm fine with insecurities". This guy is honestly perfect! But still, I struggle with my insecurities.How can I stop myself from being like this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2013): Unfortunately, There's no cure for insecurities.
Unless you help yourself to get rid of it then it wont go.
I do think that your just being careful due to bad experienced with past bf's. That means your such a grown up.
There's only one thing that you could do, if you really think that this guy is really worth a shot. Test the waters. If he stays, his worth it. if he don't, then let go.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2013): If your insecurities are major and you think they're guna destroy the relationship- in the future, then they WILL, unless you do something about them. And they're not guna go away overnight, you need to Identify the root of them, maybe with counselling? Is it anxiety, rejection, stuff like this? A tip if so is to think of that nervous buzz of fear- as a buzz of excitement, instead :) Need more info :) Just remember that there are too many evil tw*ts, that actually see treating people like crap as a recreation! Too many for us good n pure people to assassinate ;) haha! Remember you're a genuine, special guy- with strengths and weaknesses- like all of us! Nobody has a right to tread on you like dirt and you deserve better . X :) Post an update! X
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