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writes:HELP, I have a real big anger problem... I get angry over little things, for example when my mum asks me a question, I answer, she won't hear me she will ask me to repeat and I just boil up inside and snap at her or storm off and punch the wall or whatever is in my way which often happens to be my sister and I hurt her and I feel sooooo bad afterwards. I feel like my head is going to explode!, It's just little petty things and I don't know how to control it. I'm only 18... any advice?????? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks "someoneelse" your advice was interesting and you're right i need to stop when im angry and figure out what im feeling. I get angry atleast 5/6 times week and when i say angry i mean really angry to the point where i cant control it and i feel so stupid afterwards, there was one time where my little brother really got on my nerves and i feel so ashamed in saying this cause hes only 9 yrs old but i found myself strangling him and my mum had to stop me, then i realised what i had done and i felt disgusted with myself, its like when i get angry i dont know what im doing, my college sent me to anger management which was the school counsellor which didnt really help as she got me playing with sand so i didnt turn up anymore, but i would love to get rid of this problem because even when i go out my mum warns me "please dont get yourself into a fight" and i feel so pathetic as im 18 and i shouldnt be acting like this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice guys...no im not on birth control, but i think it may have alot to do with bottling things up, the worst part is appologising because when i do lash out then i appologise and i keep doing which makes the appology meaningless, ive tried counting to 10 and all that i just get more frustrated, the thing i have such a nice and loving side to me aswell im very caring so when this side of me comes outi hate myself cause its not me!!, i hate abusive people and my dad used to abuse my mum and he has a bad temper too, could that be the reason for my bad temper too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Your a teen so the problem could easily be hormonal. Go to the doctor and ask about getting your hormones checked and if you're on the pill, ask if this is a side effect and maybe whether you can change to a different one.
Also, have you ever tried meditation? I know it sounds new age and stuff but it's actually very effective. Just sit in a quiet place and start breathing from your stomach to the count of 7. Try not to think of anything. It's hard to sit still at first but if you try a little bit everyday you'll notice how calm and centered you feel.
Are their issues you're bottling up? That can mount over time and make you so fed up that you explode at everyone. Try talking to someone you don't feel judged by if that's the case. Talking to someone and getting things of your chest is always a release and a relief.
Their are lots of different things you could do and I hope you find the solution to your problems.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Well it could be any number of things. Maybe it's that stress. Teen years can be very stressful and it's very common for teenagers to freak out like that. My advice is to just calm down in these situations. Every time you are about to explode, take a deep breath and count to 5. Then realize that you are going to hurt the other person when you explode and do everything in your power not to do it. If that doesn't work I would reccommend talking to a professional.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Been in same situation as you, i feel for you hun because it dosnt feel too good when you calm down, and it puts everyone on edge waiting for you to explode again.
i dont know if this helps but i joined a kickboxing club, whenever anything pisses me off i can vent my anger in class, you get praise for punching things and not just a hole in your bedroom wall.
p.s - theres also lots of fit blokes there (Bonus!!)
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