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female
age
30-35,
*ecomingBroken
writes:My boyfriend constantly accuses me of the smallest stupidest things.For an example, today we were supposed to get out of the house, and go out to eat. He decides to bring along his friend. We're in the restaurant have out food and I looked at his phone and then asked him for a French fry. He has that look like "Oh really?! " and I immediately thought he was upset for me looking at his phone a certain way but Nope! He tells me I looked at his friend -.-We're adults, why must the childish things get you like this?So he texts me and says that he doesn't wanna be with me..It's not that simple. I moved to a totally different state to live with him almost a year ago. I can't just pack up and leave.Anyways, he had been saying since yesterday how he wanted to go out (but always saying he doesn't wanna waste money) and so he starts disrespecting me by saying his friend (a girl) has a birthday coming up and they can go with her. And I got frustrated went to the car.He did it on purpose in my mind. His friend kept saying he wanted to leave us on our date but he insisted on him staying. He makes this up about me looking at him and drops me off at home. And disappears.It's so obvious he takes advantage of me being home all the time working, and doing every thing for him.I don't know what you're supposed to do with a person who acts this way. I'm annoyed, stressed, depressed, and broken.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 January 2013):
 what you do if you are unhappy is end the relationship.
if he doesn't want to be with you, then make it so.
go home.
call mommy and daddy and ask for a bus or train ticket and go.
and yes you can just pack up and leave. do not stay because it's too hard... you will end up married to this guy and then when you are really ready to stop the abuse you will have a bigger mess to straighten out.
saying i can't leave is a cop out.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 January 2013):
 You write: "I don't know what you're supposed to do with a person who acts this way...."
One good answer is that you get away from them (him) and never look back. Despite the complications that you noted (your moving, and all...), over time, overcoming those complications will seem to be one of the smartest things you could have ever done for yourself....
Good luck...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 January 2013):
Sorry but saying, "its not that simple" in regards to breaking up with him isn't really true.
Sure you sacrifice for him, so it wouldn't be easy, but it's just as simple as it'd be if you lived anywhere.
I'm not suggesting you break up, since you really didn't give enough info. BUT, people rarely change despite their best intentions, it's sad but true. So if you can't picture yourself being with the person he is, then you probably need to move on instead of wishing he was someone he's not. Love shouldn't make you depressed.
If you feel like you just can't leave him then you should go to couple's counseling. You're not going to get an answer from anyone here that can change the way he's acting. It may be expensive but you have to decide if your relationship is worth it.
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