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*anya217
writes:I have been dating someone for a little bit more than six months, we happened to be roomates before we dated and then things got difficult, i saw a side of her i didn't like (a lot of arguing and even physical agressivity). i tried leaving her many times but when i did even the police cant seem to get her to co-operate to get my things out of our place. she has no problem harassing me on the phone line at work or showing up and wrongfully accusing me in front of my customers, she doesn't like any of my friends and family and is over all, a bully. I feel manipulated and trapped. I once cared for her very much and because of this undying understanding i have for her feelings i cant seem to pick up and go. it sounds like there is a very simple solution to my problem but i feel a lot of guilt when she calls me crying from all her heart. the suicidal attempts scare me. i want to minimize the suffering for her because she is very sensitive but don't know how to make it easier for her since i just tend to sneak out while she is at work... in which case she runs around our big city of montreal looking for me and calling my friends till i give her a sign of life. At this point it is absolutely unbearable and need to know if it is cruel of me to disappear and not leave any news or is their anything i can do that doesn't make me feel as much guilt, i have tried talking to her parents but they are pretty much scared of her, i don't know any of her friends and i cant seem to have a conversation about anything serious with her she clearly needs professional help and she asks me to help her do that but i don't know if i want to... i have answered my own question by writing this but maybe i can get some advice on how to deal with the harassement?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): Running from your problem(s) is never a good solution.
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