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female
age
41-50,
*ouge fille
writes:Hello!I've been in a relationship for 4,5 years and it was the love of my life. Apart from great sex we could talk and hug for hours and were helping and supporting each other. We had problems... but I believed our love can make up for it.I was desparate to get married but although he said he loved me so much he never was prepared to do so. I set him deadlines, threaten to break up, broke up with him and finally got pregnant...(he was aware that I'm trying).After that he still said it is not the right time for our marriage and insisted that I terminate the pregnancy. My heart dropped, I wanted it all so much: family and kids. He said after we get married in the future we will have kids and everything I want. I do not trust him anymore. I broke up with him. I feel horrible, I lost hope, I lost a child and I lost a man I loved. My question is how do I get over all of this!
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reader, xLovex +, writes (5 August 2008):
Marraige is when 2 people who are willing to show their love for each other and are prepared to stay together forever. It is a big commitment and you were obviously very much in love with this guy. He wasnt ready to make the commitment but it wasnt right for him to insist that you get rid of the baby. If I would try to get over this I would talk to my mum and go out with my friends to keep busy :D
Good luck - Just give it time
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (5 August 2008):
 hi sweetheart first of all im sorry that you went through all this. second of all, its very clear that the 2 of you were on different sides when it came to goals, needs, wants for the future etc. sure you were in love, but sometimes thats not enough, especially when there are such big differences.
he knew you were trying - why didn't he tell you that he didn't want you to have a child? to let you keep trying and then to force you into this huge decision is selfish, childish and cruel. this man did not deserve your love, or the beautiful child you were prepared to being into the world.
as for the question, i hate to say there is no easy, express way to get over this. all you can do is accept it, learn from it and try to move on. spend time with those you love and get support from - family, friends etc.
its hard but you just have to breathe and start a new day.
i really hope that life brings you happiness, joy and a beautiful family with a man who will deserve all this.
email me if you ever want to talk.
good luck xxx
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