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writes:I am 18 and I haven't a girlfriend yet. This is because I am extremely shy. What the best way to get a girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): Hi there. Being a loud and confident person, I personally haven't had this problem. However, friends of mine have.
1.First of all, don't feel you have to get a girlfriend just to be like everyone else.
2.Just be around them. Anytime you can, hang out in a big group of mixed sexes, and just be calm. Strike up casual conversation, or just a smile is enough to get someone talking.
3.Focus maybe on someone you particularly like. Be nice to them, speak to them (I know its awkward, but a bit of friendliness goes a long way)
4.Don't try to be like other people. Yes, loud boys get lots of girls. But they treat them like dirt and how long are they with them? Girls appreciate shy, quiet boys, they understand us more. Talk deeply with girls, and help witht heir problems.
5. Maybe ask someone you like for their instant messaging or email address? That way, you can be as confident as you want, and they will see the real you. You will then feel comfortable with them if you get to know each other well, and can then move it into real life.
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reader, loulouxox  +, writes (10 October 2008):
 just be ur self maby ur not ready yet maby u want the right one 1st. dont let it bother you to much time will tell. and if a girl likes you then she will tell you. so wat your a little shy every 1 is in their own way. dont let it stop yopu doin the thing you like.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (10 October 2008):
 Shyness is a pain and will get in the way. A thing I did to remove, or lower, my shyness is reading a lot of self-growth books.
I read a lot about personalities/relationships etc and realized that the reason why I was shy it was because I didn't understand it.
In this case, shyness was like a fear of the unknown to me and by reading about it I understood what it was and wasn't afraid/shy anymore.
Never underestimate the power of books.
Hope it helps! Have a nice day :)
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