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writes:Okay, so I have been with this guy for six months, and I love him to absolute pieces. We haven't only been a couple, we have been best friends, and he has been like a brother to me and I have been like a sister to him. we have the most incredible time together and our relationship was pretty serious. He is 17 and got his first summer job this year, so he hardly has any time. Also, he is dealing with many personal problems at the moment and said that it would be for the best if we went back to friends. We then met up to discuss it and we agreed that we would take "a break" since neither of us wanted to break up, he just felt like it was somehting that had to happen. The problem is that since we wll both be on vacation at different times and stuff, I won't get to see him for almost 2 months, and that will be tough. But if neither of us wants a break, I fail to see why it is happening. anyways, to make a long story short, I miss him and i want him back desperately, but he seems convinced that this break is better for me and i will be able to enjoy myself more and go out with new people. what do i do to convince him that we shouldn't have a break? or should we have a break, and take it as it comes? what if he finds someone else? or what if our spark is lost? please please please answer, i'm guessing most of you know what its like to feel completely lost and heartbroken, and all answers (serious ones of course) are appreciated. love xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2012): if he is really going through a tough time, i suggest you give the guy some space. just let him think,, occupy yourself with friends and sports, and when the time has come for your break to end, if he talks to you first, then great, you can talk it over and hopefully get back together, but if not, then to hell with it, move on and find someone else :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 July 2012):
 You can't make someone love you or want to be with you.
"we need a break" is often the precursor to "we need to break up forever"
even if you are together when he goes out he probably eventually will find someone else and so will you...
of course you feel lost and heartbroken and this is the most tragic thing that has happened in your life so far, but there really is nothing you can do to change his mind...
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (10 July 2012):
 If anyone wants to take a 'break', it's usually a nicer way of saying that he/she is not into you anymore. Let him go, OP. It's time.
I'm sorry if I've hurt you, though.
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