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writes:Where I live circumcision is uncommon and most girls think it's disgusting. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months now and we had talked about having sex soon. I know that she will find my circumcision disgusting, and I'm worried she might tell other people about it. How can I tell her that I'm circumcised in a way that wont freak her out. If not how can I convince her to stay with me and not tell other people.P.S. we are both 17 and of legal age. Reply to this Question
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reader, aaaaa  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 what is circumcise????
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reader, jay12toes  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 i basicaly agree with everything that everyone else said,
the way i see once its inside her shes not ganna be able to tell whether or not its been circumsized. besides at the age of 17 how many penisus has she seen anyways, the less shes seen the less uncommon yours looks.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 I personally have never seen the big deal in regards to circumcision - whether a lad is or isn't circumcised has never worried me.
She may not find it disgusting - it's not abnormal, it's just uncommon. If you are really that worried about it, bring it up next time you talk about sex. Ask her what she thinks of it, tell her you're a little worried about it. She may not even mind. If she really really cares for you it shouldn't be an issue either way.
And in the end, when you're in the throes of passion, I doubt the absence of a little skin is going to make that much of a difference to what you're doing. =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): I recently dated this guy and I LOVED his uncircumsised penis. It was so pretty and clean and it just looked so pretty.
The thing is that I thought I didn't like uncircumsised penises because I dated this kid in high school who wasn't circumsiced and I really did not like his penis... Now looking back, I can't figure out if it was him that I didn't like...He was a very insecure guy...And I don't think he was very hygienic. I don't want to get into it, but it was not pleasant.
But this new guy's penis is so beautiful and clean and perfect. And he is not circumsised. So there you go. But I REALLY REALLY liked him too. And he was not embarrassed about it at all. He is super confident and SO sexy. And he is really cute. And we have amazing chemistry.
I guess the point is, EVERYBODY has "flaws" and things about themselves that they don't like and are embarrassed about. Even your girlfriend. You just need to be confident.
The guy I like I am sure has many "flaws" to someone else, that I am too blind to see, cause I like him so much, but because he is so confident, and so unconcerned with whether I like it or not. If I didn't like it he would probably just tell me to jump in a lake. His confidence is what makes him perfect to me. That's all you need. Be confident. Say, "I don't give a sh*t what anyone thinks. I like my penis, I think its perfect and studly." If YOU believe it, everyone around you will believe it too...
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reader, Short timer +, writes (5 June 2008):
 If she loves you she wont care about that. tell her there is nothing wrong with being circumcised. Im jewish and I can tell you that Im circumcised but people I know dont think its odd.
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Just because most girls find it disgusting, it doesn't mean your girlfriend is that shallow. Explain to her and ask her how she feels about it. I'm sure she's a lovely girl, that's why you went for her, just stay calm and talk with her quietly.It's nothing to be ashamed of and she may be offended if you ask her not to tell, because she may feel like you didn't trust her not to. If she does tell anyone don't let it get you down, just smile and say 'yeah it's true, but so what?!' It's nothing to do with them anyway, and it's honestly nothing to be ashamed of. Good luck!
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Definetely ask her how she feels about such a thing. Maybe you will be surprised with her answer!She maight like it. Also ... people that just heard, but never saw, cant say they dont like it. She has to see it, try and than say if she liks it!
I think its much better.
Maybe you shold also tell her about the good part of circumcision ... like its easier to keep it clean, and also better health
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reader, ~~DEVASIOUS~~ +, writes (5 June 2008):
where are yu from thats not uncommon to be clean didnt "moses" come up with the concept of being circumsised its can be just healthier living , my son isnt but thats how the hospital done it then when he was born , hmmm?
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reader, inneedofattention +, writes (5 June 2008):
 hunny... whats wrong with circumcision? you may find it tuns her on even more! you never know until you find out. if she does react badly its her loss, shes missed out on a great guy over a little matter. if she really really cared you wouldnt mind.all the luck and love in the world you friend in need of attention xxx
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Well, ask her how she feels about it. She might be okay with this or maybe not, but at least find out how she feels.
Another thing is to tell her the benefits of being circumcised. This might ease any negative attitudes about the whole idea.
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