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writes:Hey alli have a lovely girlfriend and we have been together for 2 months and recently she has been having doubts about me, for chatting to girls behind her back and flirting with girls. the thing is, i love her a lot and i show her my feelings all the time, i tell her what i want from her in future, i show her wherever i'm sad and im ok, i dont hide anything from her. I'm not worried about the situation but i'm worried for her because she gets frustrated over nothing. i know that everyone get doubts, because sometimes i get them my self but when she tells me that is ok i trust what she tells me because i know she loves me..i love my girlfriend and i dont want to see her feeling bad for some toughts and doubts that are not true..i dont give confidence to no one, im careful for these things and i dont let no one cross my line of boundries because im sure in what i want..how can i convince her that im always there for her?how can i convince her that i do love her a lot?how can i convince her that there is no one more important then her? because when i show her im getting confuced if she does believe me or not :/to say all the truth my past was a bit crazy, i didnt use to take care about love. i did do one night stands, go out with alot of girls i was a kind of a 'playboy' but things have changed and i explain to her that the past is gone and now i know what i need and i know that i want her for my future..she is being a bit too much in her toughts and causing arguments that i always have to calm them down..please i would like an advice in what i can do thank you
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (9 June 2011):
 If you don't believe that you are flirting, maybe ask some of your mutual friends if they think that your behaviour could be interrupted as flirting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i know i take it from her prespectiv and i understand that she feels sad or not, but i dont look to other women i kiss her everytime i show her love and do my best i can. but im a human being..sometimes when i speak to a woman or something she gets annoyed, she hate my work place, and she even hate in the way i talk to other girls she say.
I sat down with her and told her to explain to me what excactly annoyes her in me, she had told me that my looks and the way of speaking is like flirting and im sure im not doing this...
the thing i hated is last time she posted on fb that she had doubts on something and of course guys `Friends` jumped on her and asking her whats wrong with her and so..i spoke to her about the problem and she told me that im right but i dont want to that to happen just on a tought. i dont want that she says that im cheaten on her and she cheats on me because she think so u know?
i know that shes knows what shes doing but when a person is frustrated it easly gets fed up..i dont want her to get fed up from me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): I am currently in a situation like this. My boyfriend used to date a lot of women. I found out that he was talking to other girls behind my back. I confronted him and he reassured me that he loves me and that I had nothing to worry about. Somehow that did not make me feel any better. I can't help but feel that I am not good enough for him, maybe she feels that way too. If you love her, then show her. When you go out don't look at anyone else, hold her hand, cuddle in the park, or just kiss her unexpectedly. You have some work to do. Women are strange creatures, but we do have feelings. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot, and she did those things to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dont chat with girls, but she dont believe me she thinks im chatting with girls and flirt but i dont :/
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (8 June 2011):
Stop 'chatting to girls behind her back and flirting with girls'. Pretty simple, she has said how she feels. Chat to girls, but not behind your girlfriends back. Cos really, whats with that?
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reader, foxy7727  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 I am like that w my current boyfriend of about a month. I love him and I know he loves me. But he was a playboy to. Just reassure her that she's all you want and that you're lucky to have her. There is not much else you can do but let her know she has no need to worry and that she's your everything good luck :)
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