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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex boyfriend broke up with me. During two months of separation, he never called me even once. When I call him or txt him he would txt me back and call me back but since I have stopped almost two wks ago he hasn't even bother to contact me at all. I visited his facebook web site today and found out he's been meeting so many new girls. I am so upset because when he broke up with me he said he is not looking for anybody. Silly me to trust him but I felt like two months haven't been long enough for him to find a new girlfriend. I have no idea if he is dating or not but it seems clear he is looking. He is 26 years old but look like he's hanging out with 20 or 21 years old. I feel so dirty and disgusted how a man can just go and have fun after hurting a girlfriend of two and a half years. Does he even care how I feel? Does he even bother to care that I might be hurting? I am trying so hard to move on but I am so angry. He always told me how he has no money that he can never go anywhere. (He always asked for money from his daddy, his daddy pays for all the bills and his cars(he has two so freaking spoiled) and his vacation.) So while I was in the relationship with him I paid for everything. And now he's spending money on these girls and himself. I am so angry that I don't know what to do.I wish that I can go and punch him but I know that its not realistic. And another thing is I miss him. I am so mad that I miss him. How can a person be so cold and selfish? He used me for money and then since there is no more major holidays and his birthday isn't til august, he just dumped me how convenient right? When he broke up with me, he told me how he wants to settle down but not with me, I am bad luck in his life and he would call the cops and have restraining order against me unless I stop begging ( I was kneeling down asking him to come back I felt like I would die without him but I don't feel that way anymore).I feel so disgusted that he chose these girls over me. Fine these girls are drop dead gorgeous but isn't personality more important? I gave him more than I can afford(financially and emotionally) and he never appreciated it. He told me at the end he would throw me out like a garbage unless I stop crying and leave him. How can I control this anger in me? Please help!!!
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reader, marrianneheart  +, writes (21 June 2009):
HiYou need to stop calling him. You need to block him off Facebook. I know it is painful but he didn't care enough when you were together, so he certainly won't care now. Seriously, that is how it is. You are just humiliating yourself and making him feel even more powerful and wonderful.You need to gain your respect. No man wants to be hounded. All men like to chase. You have thrown yourself at him, given him everything and he still doesn't want to know.Love is a game. Stop contacting him. Be nice to yourself. Don't spy on him. Don't offer yourself to him. As painful as it will be (and it will be) do not contact him at all. Focus on you. Find your friends, go to the gym, push your boundaries which will make you feel scared but will take your mind off him. He is not worth you, no matter how good looking he is. He has chosen not to be with you even though you offered him all that. Walk away now and block the connection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): Ok... heres what you need to do, delete his number, block him from facebook, hide all memories, get that dignity back, grab your friends and go have fun. Sod him xx
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