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writes: im am nerly 16 and ma step brother is 17 but when i was 10 he did sexual things to me and i thought i was ok...it stoped when i went to live with my mum which was wen i was 12 but now i know it was wrong but im with my dad alot and everytime im there alone with him he does things to me but its wrong and i want it to stop but i have feelings for him...he knows that and uses it to confuse me telling me i want it and tells me i should stop playing games. i found out he did it to my step sister and he got chucked out but my dad and step mum dnt no about me and him and i dont want to tell them but i want to confront him about it and tell him it has to stop cause it wrong but everytime im alone with him it starts again and i have sed no to him and have been able to walk away but sometimes i cant say no to him i dont no what to do but i dont want to tell my family Reply to this Question
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reader, Nimmie  +, writes (3 January 2009):
I understand exactly how you feel. All I can say is that you have to tell someone! This is wrong and you are not to blame, this is what i suffered with the most is that i didnt want to tell in case i disapointed my family. All i can say is please to tell someone before it goes too far! He is an evil person that needs to be shown that he can't do that to others, you already know that he has done this to someone that you love and he will continue to do this to others, protect yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): he is abusing u, warn him. if he doesnt listen , tell ur parents
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reader, elisa_lee  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Your stepbrother has a problem. You may already know this, but the problem is entirely his, not your fault. If he is using your feelings for him, just remember that he did this to your stepsister too and who knows who else.
You do need to tell someone in order to get the help you need, try calling a hotline like the one listed at rainn.org as someone suggested.
I understand not wanting to tell your family but it would probably help.. he needs to get some therapy or something so he doesn't continue and other people don't get hurt. He might become a rapist and hurt other women or girls and end up in jail, or he might just have bad relationships and treat his partner abusively, have guilt or any number of psychological problems. So I hope he gets help to change before he goes out into the world.
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reader, JSB1993 +, writes (3 January 2009):
Your step brother is abusing you mentally aswell as sexually. Sometimes boys will tell you anything you want to hear which will gain them what they want. It is important you stop this now and telling your family is the only way it can be put to an end. Telling your step brother to stop however many times isnt going to mean it will stop because you are vulnerable to him because of your feelings for him. I really would advise you to speak to your family you know this i wrong and if it carries on you may lose sight of whats wrong and right because of his talent to persuade you to do whatever he wants you to. Take care, x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): Gosh just be strong don't be alone with him ignore him as much as possible and tell him that you feel shit all for him these days and that you have a boy friend. You're brother seems to be mentally deranged. Talk to the sister he did that too and gather some strength to confront the issue
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 January 2009):
 I don't feel qualified to give you really good advice other then talk to you family - look into getting help.
www.rainn.org could be a good start. It doesn't matter when he did it, the fact it he did this to you. The feeling you have for him are not healthy, but very typical for girls who have been in your position. Talk to your family,they have a right to know and they have an obligation to help you. You might also help your stepsister too.
Stay away from him. What he did was HIS doing. You didn't do anything wrong. Don't let him do that to you again.
Please get help, talk about it.
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