A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey im driving myself mad here and i hate myself for it. Im not joking yes i know im probably over reacting but i seriously cant carry on like this, ive tried to get over this guy but it just aint happening, hes one of m best friends and i never ever want to loose him. Hes made me who i am people look at us and say we;re just the same and everything! Im not sure what to do i just need some help. The problem is hes confused me so much, on one hand he always used to say he didnt want a gf(to much trouble etc and wanted to focus on his life) and on the other hand he was showing it so much, other people thought he liked me and everything! Then the next thing i know is ive left college and his mates adding me wantin to know if theres anyone i like and suggesting we all meet up(i didnt tell her i liked him) Theres no way she could have known me any other way and then my mate said to her in a joke your not trying to get them to together are you and she admitted she was. So what the hell did he say to her about me!! (we still havent met up btw) Thing is its just depressing me because he means the world to me so dont tell me im wasting my time. He tells me we;re good friends and stuff but then again hes so different with me, he never start converstaions with me like on msn or anything, i have to be the one to do the talking, dont get me wrong he will talk back but he doesnt say much! And even when we;re together sometimes we dont talk alot but these past two times we;ve been out with a mate of ours its really confused me because hes been really friendly with me, joking with me and play fighting with me! Yet he still dont talk to me unless i do him....like, this is just an example but he will comment peoples posts on websites like facebook but never mine when i know he woul if they were anyone elses.(yea im over reacting there but yano...its just another example) I cant get him on my own though because i can see his point in this but whats the point of going into town at the weekend if theres only two of you because its not like you can really hear each other talk anyway!Hes just so busy atm and i wont see im for like another month but ive got this stupid idea in my head that the longer i go without seing or talking to him hes just gonna cut contact and one day not reply or come out one night! I miss him so much hes like one of my best friends...things have been made awkward for us but i dont get why hes so different. I miss him and as long as we are friends and hang out together i'll be happy! Honestly! so please dont think im being obessive over him im just down all the time and take everything personally please can you help me clear my head?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): He is not interested. Quit living in a fantasy world. You have clearly stated in many ways that he is not interested. Would you want someone who is too busy for you? If he wanted you, he would be right there with you.
Stop talking to him. Ignore him. Quit all communication to gain control back over your life. Further communication will only create false hopes and more pain.
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