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writes:Hi,i really need some advice. I have been in a long distance relationship for 6 years now..we are very much in love but are unable to decide where to set up home..in my country uk or his Malta. He is the only child and has elderly parents who rely on him and he being such a considerate guy doesnt have the heart to leave them and i wouldnt want him too. I have a very close knit family and the thought of moving to another country and leaving what i know behind terrifies me.Also i have a good job here.We see eachother every few months but saying goodbye always seems harder...i thought it was supposed to be easier.Any advice or words of wisdom appreciated.
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reader, L*  +, writes (15 August 2009):
I'm Maltese so I know a thing or two about Maltese culture ;-) The fact that he wants to take care of his elderly parents shows that he is very considerate but it also shows that perhaps he might not be able to make a full commitment to you. Did he ever consider moving to the UK? or is he expecting you to move?
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reader, raven100  +, writes (8 August 2009):
Hi,I think that none of you want to make a move, but if you really want to together you have to do it. I must admit, it's difficult, but what do you really need? Your family, your job or him? You could phone your family from malta, and come back to UK every couple of months. And he also could do it. He could move to your country if he needed your presence, your voice, your smell etc. Love needs to be passionate ... well the long distance relationship is just weird. I don't understand it. Sooner or later somebody will just realize that don't need so much another person.Good relationship is a strong connection, love should be showed every single day. Love consists of simply deeds mad every single day.But it's only my opinion:)I hope you figure it out somehow.Wish you luck.R.
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