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writes: Hi my name is Hels. 6 weeks ago I was approached by a really nice guy in a club, we talked for ages and he asked me out for a drink etc. Couple of days before we went for this drink he asked are we meeting as friends as im not ready for a relationship. To cut a long story short since meeting this guy we have spoke on the phone every day and met up regularly each week. I found out he came out of a long term serious relationship last year after being cheated on and is still very hurt. I would really like to be more than just friends in time but would like to know how best to build up his trust in me, get him to open up to me realise that we are not all the same. He knows I care for him and im always here for him but I also know he is just not ready and i dont want to push him. any advice on this. Thanx Reply to this Question
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 If you don't want to hurt yourself, be patient with this guy. He is not ready for a romantic relationship. If you push him into one, you may end up being a rebound, i.e. the romantic relationship will only be temporary.
If you are looking for a longer relationship with this guy then work on being his friend. If you want to get to a place where he will do anything for you and you for him, then help him heal. A true friend would do this, but it is not an easy path to take.
At this point, impatience will kill off your nascent relationship. It is however your choice on how to proceed. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 Just be friends with him for the moment. He obviously likes you as he approached you. But he is very insecure and who can blame him? Just be there as a friend and in time his trust for you will become deeper and he will probably make a move. Until then don't be too full on, just be there for him when he needs someone to talk too. Good luck
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