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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everybody,I have a problem with my sexlife! I don't know whats wrong with me and I am too embarrassed to ask my friends for advice and tips. Basically I have had 3 serious relationships 5 years, 2 years and 1 year. First relationship I was quite young and I wasn't really that into sex he used to hassle me all the time saying I was a fridgit and what was wrong with me I was weird when it came to sex etc. I think this really put me off and in some way is stuck in the back of my head. Second relationship we had a good sexlife but I was still very unconfident and afraid I would make an ass of myself or do something wrong. When it comes to sex I just feel very shy and I am not normally shy at all. I have no body issues I am fit size 8, eat healthy and go to the gym 3 times a week so its not that at all. I just am so nervous and stuff when I come to sex. I have now met a guy last weekend and hit it off, He is bringin me out this week and I am afraid that I will just stuff things up and be rubbish in bed. How can I build my confidence in the bedroom??
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reader, Aunty Susie +, writes (20 July 2011):
 You will get more confident as you get older, and more sure of yourself. I have always found too, that a big part of how good the sex in a relationship lay in how strongly you felt for your partner. If things go well with this guy, and its all good, you will feel confident, and hopefully relax and allow yourself to have fun. Its great that you feel confident in your body; that is half the battle for many women. Just relax in the bedroom,and remind yourself that its just the two of you, and you are not like anyone else. There is nothing to compare you to, so all thoughts of being rubbish will vanish.
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reader, xx__confused__xx  +, writes (20 July 2011):
Hey its not something to be ashamed about, yes i might be alittle younger then you, but ik what your going through i used to be the same way...i'd let the guys make the moves...i'd be scared i'd either do something wrong, or it wouldn't be the way he wanted or what he liked...i dated this guy for 2 an a half years, but through those 2 an a half years, he made every move, i kissed he neck occasionaly and i was on top twice....its not easy believe me ik, but some how i jus built up the courage and i'm not shy anymore, i'm actually back with the same guy...an my mom told me, when you have confidence in yourself you will be an amazing sex partner, the key is havin confidence and not thinking about it to much, jus do it...thats what i did...i hope this helped...jus remember your not the only one out there like this
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