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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:During intercourse last night I began sweating all over and also had a hot flush. Afterwards my boyfriend said these might be a sign that my body could soon be ready to orgasm. If this is true are there any hints on how I could bring myself over the edge-or should we both just let nature take it's time?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2012): no it doesn't sound like you were about to have an orgasm, it sounds more like you were in the earlier stages of arousal even though it may have lasted for an extended length of time but physiologically it was the early stage of the sexual cycle and not close to the orgasm. Or maybe you were low on blood sugar from the physical exertion.if you were close to orgasm, you would have been feeling "desperate" to keep at it until you get that physical release, the momentum would have been overwhelming. The need for release would have been very pressing, would have consumed your every thought, and not succeeding in going over the edge would have been very frustrating. Hence, I don't think you were actually about to go over the edge if you could have just stopped and speculated about what was going on.most women can't get to orgasm from intercourse alone
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reader, person12345  +, writes (14 May 2012):
 It's REALLY unlikely intercourse is going to bring you to orgasm if you've never even had one. It's unlikely it will do it anyways. Being flushed/hot is just a sign that you are exerting yourself, not a sign that you are about to orgasm. You will feel it if you are about to.
If you want to have an orgasm you can't just wait for nature because in nature, women don't have orgasms from sex. If you want to orgasm, you have to be proactive. Before you can start trying with your boyfriend, you have to do it by yourself. That way it isn't your boyfriend telling you if you are or aren't close, you will know. The best possible way to get to know your body and to learn how to reach orgasm is to masturbate. I don't know anyone who had their first orgasm with a partner/not during masturbation.
Once you can orgasm from masturbation on your own, you can show your guy what you like and teach him how to get you there. He will likely use hands or oral. Women generally can't reach orgasm from penetration alone, only about 25% can. The rest use hands, oral, or a vibrator to get there with a partner.
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