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writes: what do i do? I am 25 and I love a married man that is 52, I know this situation is awful, but i love him so much, everytime i yell and fight with him saying its over and i cant do it anymore, within a few hours we are talking again, I know it is wrong and I hate myself, but after being sexually involved with him for so long it is hard to let go, he makes me feel loved, we spend time together and he is also very sexy, but God knows I honestly don't want to be with him, it is wrong, he wants me to have his baby, but I am scared, I just don't know what to do, loving another womans husband is ruthless, heeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): Did you baby his baby?
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (25 May 2007):
Just break it off. If you really want to do this, you can do it.
I'm going to tell you why you should be angry at him.
He isn't going to leave his wife to be with you. To him, you're the side dish. In fact, having you in his life has probably enabled him to stay in his marriage. If his marriage were bad enough to justify an affair, then he should've gotten out of the marriage, but instead he found someone young and naive and talked her into bed. He gets everything he wants from this arrangement. Excitement, sex, and a little young thing to make him feel proud of his manhood.
In exchange you get nothing. Some of the best years of your life are passing you by because you're wasting them on this man.
I think it is highly unethical for a married, older man to have an affair with a woman half his age. Normally most such women are naive and easily manipulated into loving him, meanwhile he doesn't exactly return those feelings. Fondness, perhaps, but love... rarely.
So break it off. Surround yourself with good people closer to you in age. You'll rediscover that the life you've been living with him has been nothing more than a holding pattern. It is time to land and disembark and join the rest of your generation. Chalk it up to experience. It'll hurt, and it'll certainly be lonely, but if he really loved you, you wouldn't be in this situation anyway. Heck, if he'd really been worth loving, he wouldn't have cheated on his wife.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 hi mic
just walk away and dont turn. learn to ignore his calls and stop initiating any contact with him, if he doesnt want to stop threaten to tell his wife and believe me if its true you are ashamed of what you are doing you will do stop without justifying it any further. and the baby thing forget it.
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