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writes:I've been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months and at first it was great and I really liked himHe kept telling me that I was his soul mate and he really loved me it was sweet at first but now itsStarting to get annoying he wants to be with me all the time and constantly texts and rings me, hes reallypossesive , I want to break up with him but don't want him to cry as I don't want to hurt him but I noHe will be I feel like this is too much as I'm only young do you know what I can do ?
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (21 January 2010):
 Firstly take a few deep breaths, it's never as bad as you think it will be!
I know the idea of breaking up with him appears scary but if you have decided that this is the right thing to do, then don't back out.
My situation was to similar to yours; the relationship was great at first, I was so happy! but a few weeks later I started to see a different side to him.. he became very possessive and I felt as though I had to spend every minute of my free time with him, if I said I couldn't meet him that day he would go in a mood with me and on a few occasions he even accused me of lying about being busy. He was too much for me to handle, so I bravely ended it.
Now, referring back to your situation! The most respectable way of breaking up with someone is to do it in person (not over the phone and especially not by text). My technique worked rather well, I arranged to meet up with him but acted really uncomfortable and not myself - though, this doesn't need alot of work anyway because you will behave this way naturally. Eventually he asked what was wrong and I then suggested we go to the park nearby because I needed to talk to him. Strangely enough, he clicked straight away what I was about to tell him. On the way he asked "You're breaking up with me aren't you?" and I couldn't find it in my heart to say yes, so I didn't say a word, but he knew the answer. We then sat down and I explained to him the reason why (which is really important, your guy at least deserves an explanation) and I also asked if he was okay and how he felt about it. He was gutted, it was written all over his face but he didn't cry. Boys don't tend to cry infront of ANYONE because to them, it's a sign of weakness, so I wouldn't worry too much about that happening. He will probably just accept the situation and put on a brave face!
After you've broken up, make sure you don't contact him for a good while as he'll need time to adjust to you not being together and move on.
Within time you might be able to go back to being friends, but just see how it goes, for him it might be too painful then again he probably would rather have you in his life as a friend than not at all :)
All the best, Hope everything goes okay for you xxx
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