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writes:I need advice for my friend who has been married going on 2 years her husband s oldest sister is very controlling etc she wont give up the title of power of attorney still wonts to control his money.My friend stays stressed and worried when bill time comes she goes could say to pieces their bills at crazy for one and she has more to me then she can handle.They need to move and need to start looking now my friend has a 23 year old special needs daughter hubby is disabled it will be 2 years in August since they got married.They love each other and I see she does not wont to give up on her marriage either but I am thinking and knowing she cannot take to much more of this its wonder she has not had a nervous break down.She is worried about certain things they do part hubby is real quite was babied and sheltered and I feel he is scared of sister my friend wont s to do what some have told her but cannot get her nerve up.Sister in law is a bully liar sneaky and I feel my friend sure does not know a lot of things what should she do
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (6 June 2016):
I would encourage them to seek legal advice to see if the power of attorney could be switched to someone else.
Perhaps there are different laws in the US to the UK or maybe "power of attorney" means something different across the pond but I can't see why he would need someone else to manage his financial affairs unless he lacks the capacity to make rational decisions most of the time.
Did his sister have to give consent for him to get married?
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reader, bashful3 +, writes (6 June 2016):
bashful3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is a followup to the question how can I best support my friend who s sister in law is causing trouble by being controlling.Parents of the husband are both deceased husband receives very good care from my friend and is unable to work due to his seizures.From all accounts the sister in law is difficult to deal with and occasionally and reluctantly buys the husband a shirt but the sister in law does not provide a regular amount per week to cover her brother's living expenses.This is the problem.The mother of the husband used to control the husband's income and after she died the sister in law took over the role of power of attorney.My friend has told me that her husband is intimidated by his sister and easily discouraged by his sister.When he has asked for money from his sister in front of my friend and has been refused and told that he doesn't have enough money for it.So instead my friend has to somehow meet the expenses and it's just too much pressure on her.I am worried about my friends health in this situation.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (5 June 2016):
 All you can really do is be a friend. The family money is on the husband's side. The power of attorney is to mind the finances of a living person who has become incapacitated. It is often a parent. You don't say who this is.
If the husband is of sound mind he should be able to manage his own affairs.
To be honest you need to provide more detail. Sorry not to be of more help.
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