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36-40,
anonymous
writes:How do I become more 'wet' during intercourse? My partner often notes that I don't stay 'wet' long enough. I love my partner and am excited and aroused when we snuggle and make out, but I'm just not excited when we have intercourse because he is rather small most times I don't feel anything.He just feels that I'm not wet enough and tries hard to get me to orgasm while we are having intercourse.. which doesn't happen. I'm not sure if it's due to me taking the pill or not. I remember when my boyfriend and I firsf met, I used to be extremely wet every time we had intercourse. I think thaf was because I hadn't been with a man for about 5 years prior to my boyfriend and I wasn't on the pill. Is it possible that being on the pill causes me to be less 'wet' during intercourse?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 May 2017):
 Male anon it is not relevant what size her partner is and their really was no need to ask that, it is not rare and it can happen. Lets leave that there.
OP are you both having enough foreplay? Try changing things up and maybe using sex toys as it sounds like you have became bored.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2017): It is rare to see a woman here complain about size. According to statistics average size for men is 5.5 inches. Ideal size preferred by most women is around 6 inches. It would be interesting to know the size of your partner to decide if size is your problem.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 May 2017):
 Do you two have SUFFICIENT foreplay?
You say you are not excited about sex - because he is small? YOU do know that you can get pleasure from other things than his penis, right? So hand, mouth, little bullet vibrator? Something?
How can you become wetter?
Well, being aroused is how you GET wetter (unless you use lube) - maybe you two don't have enough foreplay? Maybe what you need is to GET off BEFORE penetration or at least get you close.
Does the pill figure in, in all this? Hard to say. For some birth control DO mess with the libido. You might want to talk to your doctor and try a different type, dose or brand.
It does sound to me like that lack of libido is more because the sex isn't as fulfilling as it used to be or you want it to be. Boring sex... kills the libido fast. Good news is it doesn't stay dead IF you two WORK on what makes YOU go: "mmmmm mmmm mmm".
So you two NEED to talk about sex. About where and HOW you like to be touched. What curls your toes. And of course what HE enjoys too. Share and share alike.
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