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anonymous
writes:Hey everyone i was wondering if you could help me :/okay so, i have a little problem,i find it really hard to look people in the eye, i go really red easily. and i was hoping you guys could give me some tips on how to control my nerves!Thanks for reading, xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): Imagine the person you are talking to is naked or in their underwear. Your shyness comes from feelings of inferiority (and I could speculate what I think could cause that but ill stick to the question). So you have to imagine yourself in situatuions (and convince yourself too) that this person is inferior to you. Now remember this is just an exercise to get you practicing eye contact. Nobody is inferior to anybody or should be treated or seen in that light. You are not inferior and that is why it is time for you to prove that to yourself and confidently look someone in the eye. Another thing that might work is getting rid of the shame you feel about youyrself. Find a close friend/confidant to talk to. People often just need reassurance that they are not "crazy" or "inferior" etc, from a close confidant. Anyway good luck!
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Almost all young people suffer with this. Some say it is a symptom of doing all their interacting via text and facebook. One recommendation is to get a job that requires you to interact with people face to face. Like a checker in a store or fast food counter service. That may be very hard for you so you might need to practice more first. Start with adults. When you meet an adult acquaintance shake their hand and look into their eyes when you greet them. The adults will not belittle you if you blush a bit. Teachers, neighbors, people in your church congregation, aunts ,uncles, grandparents. They will think you are being polite, and you will be getting practice. This is good advice for anyone your age. Soon you will be able to do the same with guys your age. Start with five a day and work up to fifteen. As long as you are making a constant effort.
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