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*nquisitivequiet
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years, I love him a lot- and our sex life is as good as it can be, at the moment. We're a curious couple and we still have a lot of spark- so we try a lot of different things: limited only by my lack of self-esteem. My body isn't necessarily in the best shape. I am 5'2" and I weigh probably 135 lbs, so I'm curvaceous and chubby at the tummy and thigh area. My butt has always been big, but I'm extremely sensitive about who see my body. It's not just my weight that bothers me, it's just the nudity and exposure in general. How can I get past this? I want my relationship to go smoothly and my boyfriend always feels like he's violated me or hurt my feelings when he tries to get me to do something that I am uncomfortable with- and I don't want him to deal with that. Also, I have an odd obsession with the noises that he makes when I perform oral sex- I wish that he would make them during actually intercourse, but I'm afraid to ask him- so I simply drop hints like "I love the noises you make" etc. etc. Is there any other way I can tell him to do it more often without sounding manipulative or bossy?
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reader, inquisitivequiet +, writes (10 July 2010):
inquisitivequiet is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat helps very much- thank you.
It's hard for me to tell whether or not I'm pleasing my boy, when he doesn't make noises- because he's generally straight-faced and quiet, and it makes me feel awkward and exposed- but to think of it from the point of view you stated makes it easier on me. I haven't even thought about the fact that he could be self-conscious about noises, he's generally a confident guy. I'll try bringing it up, and as for the self-confidence: I'll have to give that a try, too- thank you. :D
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