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anonymous
writes:ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 5 months im 13 and hes 15 and when we first started dating i new he was with me for me but we had sex and now thts all he wants and i dont no if hes only with me for sex now and when i say no hes gets upset and makes me feel bad he sais he loves me and i really do love him but how can i be sure he loves me and not the sex Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): Easy, just stop having sex and see if he sticks around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): what else is a 15 year old boy going to think about? That is why one is protective of young 13 year old girls! That is why everyone pounces on girls like you and tells you to not do anything you don't actively want.
Your body is not even ready for all this. You are putting adult tasks on a system which is still under preparation. Its like doing a final exam in the first semester of your school! You are not ready.
It does not matter what he wants. What matters is what you want. And what do you do with people who want to make you do what they want. Say 'no'. Each time till you are old enough to handle it or want it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): You gave him the pinky and now he wants the whole hand.
Give it to him straight: if he wants to be with you, he's gotta stop thinking with his little head, and use the one on his shoulders instead. Having only sex is not a relationship, it's a hook-up. You want a relationship. If he can't get his head out of his pants, then break it off with him. Right now, yes all he thinks about is sex.
In his defense though, every teenage boy thinks about sex and wants sex all the time, its a hormone thing. And if you guy just recently started with it (or he was a virgin or not getting it regularly before you) he got hooked. You need to bring him back down to earth.
PS. people will say you are too young and this is what happens when you have sex too young and all that. But really, guys who are older and of age can end up with their heads down the pants just as easily. I personally know several 20-some year old guys who acts like your boyfriend does now. So let this be a lesson that SOME guys do this. And learn how to deal with it.
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