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writes:Is this normal? Why is it bugging me?!? My boyfriend started this new exercise program.. it's a 90 day program and you work out for six to seven days a week. He just started this week and our conversations go on and on about how many carbs and calories for each meal. I spent the last half-hour listening to him.. I went along with the conversation but he talked for most of the time. I just don't want our fun time to be minimized because of his daily exercise routine and watching out for Yikes the carbs! LolHow can I be more supportive but still keep the fun times going?!? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): Having started some crazy workouts while dating some exercise-averse folks I know that I too often fell into obsessing about calories and talking about my exercises with them. Right now it's really important for your boyfriend to be talking about the exercise program, he's trying to get himself motivated.
However if he ceases to be a human being outside of his workouts (he can only talk about carbs and reps), try and nudge the conversation in different directions: "How was work?" "How's your friend so and so?"
If that doesn't work you can be straight with him about the carb talk being a bit too much. Girlfriends in the past have told me "Honey, I love that you're working out. I'm so proud of you. But all of the calorie counting is making me get super paranoid what I'm eating and I don't want to make myself unhealthy."
You can support him by doing things other than listening to his tales of the gym. Tell him you're proud of him, and that he's looking good. Or best of all, in the heat of some intimate time together feel his arms and pecs and tell him how sexy he is. He'll know you support the working out even if you don't want to hear about every tiny detail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor example: Tonight, he is getting off from work and going to start his exercise. Then, he's having dinner.. I'm thinking 'Babe, seriously, it's Friday!' And tomorrow we're going out for most of the day and ending the day at his place. So, that he can continue for the sixth day in this killer work-out.
To be more supportive I said I would work out with him. Is that the right way to go?!?
Thanks in advance.
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