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writes:Hello, I'll try to make this short, basically I want to know how to be more social in face to face situations with women, can someone help me? I was also wondering if women in New York are nice lol. I don't want to sound arrogant, but I'm a fairly handsome guy, I have no problem attracting women initially, but my problem is everything after meeting them, I have very weak social skills, I'm the quiet, observing type in big groups. I'm can be very loud and social, but i have know that people accept me because I'm a black guy that "talks white" and people have been making fun of me since like middle school.There's people of course that accept me for who I am and women that like me, but I'm always so shy and self conscious in the beginning. I just want to meet a nice girl that knows New york well and that will show me the cool things and introduce me to some cool people. I've basically been in a shell and want to burst out and have some real fun with a lot of people and make some more good times for myself and others. I'm not just some guy looking for sex as a tourist, I live nearby and I want to take a trip up there, but I don't want to go alone and get lost lol. I want the company of a good girl with me to be my friend and guide. Any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): Usually, if a person makes fun of someone it's to take attention away from their own insecurities so that other people don't make fun of them.
There's nothing wrong with being the quiet observational type - I think I'm rather like that. Better to stay quiet and not make a fool of yourself rather than keep talking and remove all doubt.
I don't suppose women in New York are any different to other women the world over. I'm not sure if Long Island is considered to be New York, but I have a female friend who lives there. I've known her since 1978 and we're still in touch with each other. She's one of the nicest people you could wish to meet, and now has a husband and three lovely children. When I was in New York she showed me all the sights - The Statue of Liberty, Central Park, Plaza Hotel, World Trade Center (went up to the top), Rockefeller Plaza, Coney Island Cyclone (what fun that was!) etc etc. I met her in a bar in Fort Lauderdale where she was on vacation. I think she was more interested in the motorcycle I'd hired than me, but after some conversation we seemed to get on OK. Friendships can spring up in the most unlikely places in the most unlikely fashion.
If you don't meet someone in the normal course of events, how about putting an advert in the lonely hearts / singles column of a local paper? Got to be worth a try!
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