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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:It's kind of a long and involved story, but here goes: I work as a tutor at the college I'm attenting, and one of my co-workers has confessed that he is attracted to me - which is fine, but I don't feel the same way. He is nineteen and I'm twenty-three, by the way, and he seems to be amazed that I pay any attention to him at all, because most people don't. He trusts me enough to talk to me about his home situation, and how down and confused he is in his life right now. He has suffered from verbal abuse, emotional neglect, and toiled through four of his mother's unhealthy marriages. I see a lot of my nineteen-year-old self in him, he verbalizes things that I felt at that age, and I really think I could be one of the few positive influences in his life. Though I am not attracted to him, I think we could be good friends.... The trouble is, his attraction seems to be growing, and has even told me, "I know I say 'I like you' a lot, but you're actually very special to me." I don't feel awkward around him, his attraction doesn't bother me, and I want to handle this like an adult; this is a serous matter to me. So how can I be his friend (a real one) without crossing any lines, and without leading him on?
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