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writes:I find it really hard to go up to people I don't know well and talk to them. I feel like everytime I say something somebody will judge me or say something nasty about me when I turn my back. How can I become confident enough to talk to people I don't know too well? Reply to this Question
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (25 August 2015):
 I think everybody, even the most confident of people, feel this at some point in their life, whether social or career-based.I'm a fairly confident person, but walking up to someone and striking up instant conversation is something I find hard to do. However, what I find is a good way to meet people and enter conversation is by sitting near a group of people and eavesdropping into their conversations. If they say or talk about something and you suddenly feel that you have something to contribute, face their way and quickly drop it in.In a social and relaxed situation it's very likely that they'll hear and maybe join you in with the conversation - that's why it's called a social situation. You can also ask if they mind if another person joins in. Make a joke about yourself by saying you have no friends around here. If you find you don't like the people make the excuse to get another drink if you're at a bar, or need the toilet.If you smoke, ask someone if you can be annoying (this shows acknowledgement) and bum a cigarette from them before making small talk about the place you're in or the bands you've seen live tonight (if you're in a music bar).People go to social places to talk and relax and unless you are both polar opposites, most people will be willing to talk to you :)
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