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writes:Im 22 years old and I have recently started a relationship with a guy Brendon who is almost 26 years old. Brendon and I have been really good friends for about 3 years, we even knew each other when we were in relationships with other people. Both our previous relationships ended at around the same time- last year oct/nov. We have always been attracted to each other and there has always been chemistry. Even when we were in other relationships we still spoke every night and were more apart of each others lives than our respective partners. When I was about 19 I got a part time job for a marketing company and he was the regional manager. Thats how we met. During December we went away for a day trip and just had an amazing moments and experiences with each other. But we never kissed or anything, even though the attraction was there. After a couple of months we did kiss and continued to go out together and be as a couple would be. He came on family trips and spent time with me and my entire family. A couple of days ago he asked me to be his girlfriend. We both spoke about it and realised that even though we act as a couple and pretty much know that we're with each other, its now ultimate and clear. This man knows me better than I know myself, I know him better than he knows himself. Ive never been more happy with anyone. During the period that we weren't officially together I did go out on dates and meet new people, in fact i met a lot of wonderful charming men who were extremely into me but my heart wasnt satisfied, Even during the date i would say things to them and accept the response Brendon would give me. I would call him straight after dates and see how he was doing. Only family trips he and I would share a room together and be together as a couple would even infront of my family. So the impression was very clear- We looked and acted like a couple. Im in love with Brendon and I have no doubt that hes in love with me. We would say these kinds of things even when we werent actual girlfriend and boyfriend. Im so happy that hes my boyfriend and that Im his girlfriend, but Im also scared at the same time. i havent been in a relationship in a long time. I wanna be a good girlfriend to him and maintain a good relationship. HOW DO I DO THAT????The funny thing is that no person has ever asked me to be his girlfriend straight forward, it was always sort of implied. So when i told him that he said that hes the first person to ask me out and he'll also be that last. I wanna be a good girlfriend now.....
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reader, Abella  +, writes (21 July 2012):
 Sounds like it is very early days. Because although you have a good strong foundation together as good friends he now wants to go on to develop an even closer relationship.
Since I think both of you have been doing everything right so far I would suggest that you continue as you have been doing.
Keep the trust intact
Keep it real and honest.
Never take each other for granted
Keep it exclusive all the time it is working.
Do not cheat on each other, not even emotionally.
Resolve issues when the issue arises. Never let it fester
Occasionally you will disagree. In a healthy relationship that happens. All each other to both have a say without interrupting. Fight clean, which means ONLY about the issue at hand. Never bring in other issues that have nothing to do with the issue of contention.
Show an interest in each other's activities.
A relationship is about both parties doing the right thing.
From the sound of things you are both in sync with each other and things can only get better and better from now on.
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