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writes:Hey,Over the summer, i'm living away from my boyfriend (we are in a serious relationship) and i just can't help but feel like it's me doing all the chasing. I know hes busy with work but i'm working full time and doing placement reports in my spare time and i still manage to find the time to text and ring, whereas he barely replies and never rings/texts me first. I know it sounds really petty but it's making me feel really bad that hes not putting in the effort that I am.Anyways, I'm just looking for some advice to how I can bring it up that it's really upsetting me that he never bothers to get in touch with me, without sounding like i'm nagging at him and i don't want to make the situation any worse! Please give me sensible advice as I am feeling really down about this, I don't need people telling me that i'm a possessive gf etc because i'm not! I'm just feeling very lonely at the minute thats all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the advice, i'll try the ignoring thing now :) Got lots of stuff to keep me busy so will crack on with my uni work for once lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): I second that ignoring advice. I know it will be hard, but you need to be able to. I almost guarantee he will call. Once he does though, you need to keep up not calling a little. Call and text less than before until you feel equal. I know it's hard, I had to do this with my boyfriend a bit. Make sure you have plans and things to do with people. It makes it a billion times easier.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (16 July 2009):
No matter how you approach it, he's going to feel that you are nagging. So honestly, I swear by it...quit trying to call him or text him. Be the way he is being to you, that's why you're chasing him. He will notice that you're not trying to call him or text him anymore, he'll begin to wonder what's up. It's not like he doesn't know that he's not calling you or texting you, he knows that he's not. The best way to bring it to his attention is to not say anything at all...IGNORE HIM.
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