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writes: Hey guys, me and my boyfriend have been going out for about two months. At first it was pretty complicated as he didn't want his rather controlling parents to find out. Anyway after about three weeks he told them, so everything was good for a while.He's autistic (but doesn't know, he just knows he has some kind of condition. I found out by accident and he doesn't know that I know) and he can get pretty intense at times, talking as though we're soulmates and about how much he loves me and how we'll be together forever.Today we were talking about when we knew we liked eachother and stuff like that, as in the time when we were just getting into the relationship. He admitted he had a big crush on one of my friends for a long time and that cause of that he distanced himself from those kind of feelings. Then apparently when my friend told him I liked him he realised "as I loved him he could love me." (he wrote me an amazing letter saying straight away he loved me, I'm his first girlfriend)My question is, is it bad that this bothers me? I didn't say love for ages and I'm still not one hundred percent convinced that we're in love. Or even if I believe in love, I know I have strong feelings for him, but that doesn't mean love. How can he say he loves me if the first time he thought about me in that way was because he knew for sure I liked him?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 No its not wrong that it bothers you. But you need to remember that Autism is a very severe thing to have and it is possible that he feels the only way to love someone is that you need to learn how to do it. Maybe research the subject on love with autism and see what you can find out on the subject. There are many types of autism and most of them involve the person having difficulties being in an emotional relationship.
I guess it is just his way of seeing things. You cant learn to love someone it is something that happens naturally but with autism everything has to be in routine and I guess he has just added you in his routine to learn to love you. This is not a bad thing as such. Just remember actions speak louder than words therefore if he is treating you well and showing you that he cares about you then you should accept that he does care about you. Goodluck.
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