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*rndz4life
writes:hiithis can be a bit long My story dates back 5 yrs ago, an unknown guy smitten by me had asked me out which i declined for obvious reasons that he was a stranger.After that he never again talkedd to me though once a while we exchanged glances as we stay in the same locality.now after 5 yrs coincidentaly we joined the same tution classes 4 months ago, at the same time in same batch and for same subject.so eventually we got to know each other we became friends,very good friends .he is now a married man (LOVE MARRIAGE)for a year and a half but he has got some petty issues going on with his wife for a while due to which he started feeling lonely eventually finding emotional comfort in my company.this goes around for me also as recently i had gone through a breakup with my bf.so we have become so close over the times that our friendship has turned out to be a romantic friendship with cuddling,kissing n hugging.though he makes sure that we dont go over the board.he still terms me as his friend only,claims to love his wife n eventually returning to her at the end of the day.he neither wants to lose his wife nor part with mehow can he come to me if he still loves his wife?? he claims that love is not the limit but how can you not be in limit when you are commited the problem is my inner voice is telling me that i am doing wrong not only to myself but also to his wife who is not at fault at all.i dont want their relationship to suffer at all because of me.but i am very confused about whats going on in his mind? why and how does he justify both the relations.? does he love me or does he love his wife or neither of us?plz help me get a solution
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2012): Do you want to be known as a homewrecker?As the other woman?If not then stop all intimacies with this married man.He is using you. Get that clear in your head.Stop meeting him. Stop all the cuddling. Kissing. Fondling and so forth. Go get yourself a single boyfriend and leave this womans husband alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2012): I don't think he loves either you nor his wife. If he loved her he wouldn't be cheating on her. And yes he knows it's wrong, he knows it will hurt her that's why he keeps it a secret from her. If he loved you, he would be divorcing her to be with you. So in the end, I dont' think he loves either of you. Or at least, not *enough* to do something about it other than be too afraid to rock the boat.
please move on, you're wasting your time with this guy. if in the future he gets divorced and is single again then by all means you can get together but for now you know it's not going to go anywhere because he isn't leaving her. that leaves you with just a lot of dissatisfaction.
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