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writes:Ok idk if my boyfriend loves me. If he does when did he start idk and i think he is with me only cause i love him not sure. How can i be sure when he left 3 times. He says ii came back. But the last 2 breakups was evil mean very badbad. I wonder if im being manipulated or abusedabused in some way. Ok the time before last he said he didnt love me.he screamed very loud and clear. But he together changed his mind that breakup.was long ugly lasted 2 years and we had sex off and onon. However i didnt know while he was having sex with me he was doing two other girls. I asked him too cause i dont have sex with anyone sleeping with someone else. He lied i caught him. That just like that we back together... This dear cupid wont let me fix my writen mistakes :-( anyway i feel like mybe also with me for sex and i feel he lies and plays mind games. He has ruined my life now im gonna die alone. Why does he barley say i love you but only right before sex? I feel like he plays with my feelings :-( im scared he evil.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 March 2014):
 You ask: ".... I wonder if im being manipulated or abusedabused in some way..."
The answer to THAT is "yes, of course".... AND you've delineated all the ways in which you KNOW about that deceit...
The only "question" is: Why do you put up with his shenanigans????? ... and why haven't you told him to go away, stay away, and never come near you again....
It's really a simple process (to tell him to take a hike).
Do you need a script that you can follow?????
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2014): "He has ruined my life now im gonna die alone."
No he hasn't, you have. You're the one who keeps going back to him.
If you ask me you can put all the sad faces you want into your question I have zero sympathy for people who allow themselves to be treated this way for years. This has been going on years and you know what? Something tells me you like it. Something tells me you love the drama, the fights, intrigue and you love playing this game, because if you didn't you wouldn't play it. Simple as that.
"im scared he evil"
Stop lying, you love it. You're probably just as bad as him otherwise why not just walk away?
Because you're scared of being alone? I guess being abused, manipulated and lied to by a guy you can't even stay with for longer than few months is much future for you.
Two choices, walk away or just shut up about it. Stop complaining about something you can easily solve by walking away.
All you're doing is coming here looking for sympathy and you'll get that from the softer aunts, they'll give you all the cyber hugs you want and tell you it's going to be okay, but it's not. You either live for this drama and love it, or are too weak to do what you need to end it. You're just here to emotionally leech off others so you can keep going in this nightmare scenario you like to is a "relationship".
IT will never get any better than this, you and he just don't work, or I could be wrong and this is the type of relationship you love because you're co-dependent.
Either way, stop wasting your time moaning about it. Either do something about it or don't, but you don't get to complain about your life being hard when you won't do anything to change it. You're the only one at fault for all this pain and confusion you have. He's just being him, and he's always going to be like this. It's not his fault you allow him to treat you this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2014): "idk if my boyfriend loves me"
If he loved you then he wouldn't manipulate, control, verbally abuse or cheat on you.
"i think he is with me only cause i love him not sure."
He is with you only you because you continue to sleep with him while allowing him to manipulate, control, verbally abuse and cheat on you.
"Why does he barley say i love you but only right before sex?"
Because he believes that if he didn't say I love you right before sex then you wouldn't have sex with him. A man will tell a woman whatever she wants to hear in order to get laid.
Don't believe what he SAYS, believe what he DOES.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 March 2014):
Why are you dating someone who you think is "evil, abusive, only with you for sex, a liar, manipulative, plays mind games, etc"??? Those are your own words.
It can be hard to leave someone but do it for your sanity! Besides, you have plenty of time to find someone.
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