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anonymous
writes:I would say it's hard to put this into words but to be honest that would be an exuse for me to not get into the details. Well being the idiot I am I feel in love with my best friend and I do mean I fell hard, Head over heals. It got to the point were I couldn't even look at her with out melting. Now if that wasn't problem enough, she has a boyfriend, an amazing, Perfect boyfriend. I don't wanna say I hate him but I can't stand to hear how perfect he is, everytime someone says his name I feel so terrible its not even funny. Her whole family loves him, I mean he's just plain Perfect. Me on the other hand I was so in love I did anything and everything for her and she did thank me and all but she doesn't look at me the same way she does him. One day she was taking a nap at my house and I held her so tight my arm started to cramp, it was probably the best nap of my life, just feeling her warmth and heartbeat against me. When ever she talks about guys or her boyfriend it just hurts so much I can barley take it so i decided to stop what I was feeling and move on. The only problem is we do everything together, we see each other at school and after she calls me till we fall asleep together on the phone and on the weekends of course im at her house. It's been really hard getting over her and now she keeps asking me why I look different, I can't just tell her "oh when I talk to you I try my best not to melt our lose track of time" she thinks I'm upset and I guess she's right, I am. I want to be close still and be best friends but I don't want to have to deal with this heartbreak anymore, how am I supposed to get over her if I see her all the time and I can't just not see her. I don't know what I want you to awnser it just feels good to let it out because I havent told anyone. I don't want to say I'm bi because shes the only girl Ive ever fallin in love with and probably ever will. I just don't know what i want anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): I hate to break it to you, but you can't have your cake and eat it too. You will not be able to move on so long as you keep seeing the girl you are in love with. I know it's hard, but here's what you have to do: you need to break contact with her. You can't spend time with her. Doing so is sheer torture for you. So, as painful as it will be, you must go strict no contact. Otherwise, this girl will continue to reside in your heart, and you will not be able to do anything about it. The next thing you must do is get a life. I don't mean that in a flip sort of way, I truly mean it. You have to start being with other people, doing other things, keeping busy. Trust me when I tell you, she will not be your only love. You have your entire life in front of you, and other women will knock your socks off. Right now, you need to let go. Who knows...once you do that you may be surprised at what transpires. Just remember, whatever you do, do it for yourself and not for anyone else. Good luck.
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