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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok here's a bit about meI've recently turned 21 and i am studying social work, however recently my mother has become severly ill due to rheumtoid arthuritus so i care for her and my brother a majority of the time.When growing up my father was aggresive towards me, not my other 2 sisters and i was a victim of physical, emotional and mental abuse from him self.When i was 12 some how and even though its nearly 10 years i still feel like the little girl when i think back..i got groomed trapped into talking with a peadophile who i thought i loved but he was 45 at that time and just doesnt make sense but i thought he was my friend and some how i dont know i fell for him. but when things were going to get sexual his wife ( who he denied having) found out and my friends saved me.but now my first case is sexual abuse on young boy from a teacher in his community and yes as a s.w i can seperate myself but i just feel so anxious and inside confused liek i cant breathe i dont know what to dono one knows about from friends when younger..but the groomer well he stopped talking to me fully when i turned 16 and by my 18th birthday he had left. also i just got out of a relationship now with my first proper bf who i trusted and i just found out he had been cheating on me through out our relaitonship so i feel really low at the moment.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 November 2011):
 You have had quite a difficult start to life. but believe me you can turn it around, you just need to be a strong person and show your dad and this other man that you are stronger than that. I am sorry that your dad was so cruel to you. It is awful. You need to just try and avoid him in your life now and don't let his negativity bring you down. Did you ever get therapy for this abuse? It does leave its scars as you know, therefore if you never got professional help maybe now it is time to start looking in to it. Especially when you felt that you had falling for a older man, my guess is that you where looking for a father figure someone to love you as you deserve, but sadly this disgrace of a man took advantage of you and he should be locked up and the key throwing away.
I am sorry that you have to deal with your mother and brother at such a young age. You say that you have two other sisters, maybe they could help you out now and again to give you a break so you can go out and enjoy your life more. You are still young, you should be out with friends enjoying yourself. I am sorry that your boyfriend was cheating on you, some men are just really disrespectful and that will all add to your low self esteem. But trust me not all men are like that, and there are men out there who treat there woman with respect and love so just don't give up on that. My honest opinion to you is to go for counselling or therapy for your past. Good luck.
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