A
female
age
36-40,
*ost_Soul85
writes:I have recently become single again after a 3 year relationship. It was a really nasty break up, my ex cheated on me and ruined my self esteem. I have been single for 2 months. I have enjoyed the odd drunken snog but it is becoming patently clear that I haven't the first clue when it comes to meeting women. Sure, I go out, strike up conversations with people but then I freeze up and start acting like a mad woman (to compensate for my nerves). I was in a relationship for a long time and I have completely forgotten how to 'be single' - it seems like a lot of effort... plus I've never really done the whole single, gay and looking thing before (I just sort of stumbled into the relationship with my ex), it seems lesbians have a whole different set of rules to go on (frankly I've been finding the whole lesbian scene a bit clichy and rude). I went to a party last night and I felt like the only single woman in the whole world! I saw two people kissing and I just walked off and went home... couldn't stop thinking about when my ex used to kiss me like that. Plus the girls all seemed so haughty. I just feel horrible at the moment, socially inept and totally single. I'm starting to resent the fact that I'm single and that I have to go out and meet someone new, I don't really want to... (well I'd love someone new in my life just don't want to do all the other stuff). I was happy in a relationship, I didn't have to take part in mating rituals and courtship...How on earth am I to embrace my singledom? How can I rebuild my self esteem so I can actually begin to flirt with a person? How can I stop myself getting upset when I see other couples about?
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reader, JAG +, writes (25 October 2008):
Trust me been thier. I was with my girlfriend for two years then we split it was hard at first at first but in time it will get alot better. And if you keep trying you will beable to flirt again The gay scene is a little bit daunting but keep going you may make more friends and meet someone I hope that helps you good luck xx
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