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writes:I'm 24 and my boyfriend's 28, and his usage of porn has began affecting our relationship.Even worse, it was pictures of scantily-clad women in magazines like FHM, Maxim etc. - and it's made me question whether our relationship has a future.I found them when cleaning our flat one day. That probably explains why he had no interest in sex for the past few weeks - he's become addicted to them.No sign of it on the computer, but then again he's not very computer-literate so I doubt he'd use the internet to look at this.At least he's not cheating on me with someone else, but it's still disgusting to know he has a pornographic addiction.I tried talking to him about it when he came in from work but he wouldn't discuss it.It's got me questioning his sexuality - is he really gay, and have I been used?We've been together for 3 years now, met in April 2006, everything was good up until the last month or so when he started losing interest in sex. Now I know why.How do I deal with this and where should I take this from here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): My apologies. I thought the poster was female. Do ignore me.
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reader, G_1212 +, writes (20 July 2009):
in response to "heartfullalove" - it's a gay relationship so yeah looking at women, rather than men is an issue ina way
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): Sorry, I can't see where on earth your 'Is he really gay?' inquiry comes from??
He's been looking at pictures of scantily-clad WOMEN, in pretty softcore mags like Maxim. If he was gay, you might have found a copy or three of 'Thrust', 'Inches', 'Big Boy' etc. etc.
More pertinently, there are any number of reasons why he's lost interest in sex with you, and it may be a bit too simplistic to blame it on these magazines. Maybe you could give us more info?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): That was only scratching the surface... he had even more hardcore pornographic material stuffed in cupboards and under the bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): FHM and Maxim are not porn. If this is you idea of what porn is then you are in for quite a rude awakening. If this is the extent of your man's "porn addiction" then you are worrying about nothing and I would advise you to grow up a little.
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