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41-50,
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writes:Why can't I move on, everytime I think about the way my boyfriend talk all the times, every hour to his friend the one that he call his bestfriend, give me doubt about him. I know they were friends before he met me but come on now, no one talk to his or her bestfriend every hour like more than 10 times a day unless there is something going on. So I decide not to answer the phone when he call, not to go 2 his house, not 2 see him for at least a week starting today just to see if I can stop thinking about the way him and his bestfriend talk on the phone all the times. Even when I'm with him, he always talk to his bestfriend on the phone more than once he even forget that I'm right next 2 him and when someone call I just tell him or her I call back. Please tell me would be the right thing to do, not 2 answer the phone when he call, don't call him back, not go to his house and not seeing him for at least a week starting today? Maybe that way I can move on right?
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reader, lildeesbg +, writes (20 April 2008):
 This is why communication is a MUST! your right to be annoyed. But instead of not picking up the phone when he calls or avoiding him, try TALKING to him. Is it possible to sit him down with cell phones off and express to him that the amount of time he speaks to his best friend leaves you with doubt and irritability? It is understandable why you would think he has some sort of intentions with his friend because he doesnt know when to draw the line with the constant communication. There is a line to be drawn and to be honest i dont know anyone who talks to their friend that many times aday. Thats not to say i think he is cheating on you. But you will never know or MOVE ON from this if you dont take the time out to talk.4 little letters, and you can rest easy for a while. I am a biggg advocate about how important communication is in a relationship. If you dont communicate, things like this will come up and since nothing is vented out and solved you will just end up breaking up, because your not happy. The saddest part about that is, what if it would have worked if you just spoke about the issue? I know communication is not easy!! but its a must, so start to get comfortable with it, otherwise your relationships will be unsuccessful. When you speak with him let him know that its okie to speak to his friends (because you trust him, otherwise you wouldnt be with him...right?) But its too much and its interfering with your time together. Through the communication you will find out alot of things about him and you. So dont make a simple problem hurt you anymore!~Dee
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