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writes:so my husband and i have been married since october and have been together for a lil over a year and our sex life has always been really really amazing but for the past 3 or 4 weeks maybe 5 weeks, he has not really been wanting to have sex.. it could be because he drinks A LOT, but he says its cuz his hands hurt (theres something wrong with his hands that comes back every year), and i understand his hands are bothering him, but it never affected us before.he also says sometimes that he is tired and just wants to sleep, or when i try to sleep with him during the day he just says hes busy or makes up another excuse. im wondering if maybe he is just not attracted to me sexually anymore. i have tried new things that i heard guys really love, but nothing seems to help. is there any advise you can give me on why he is doing this or how i can get him to make love to me again?*fyi, i have talked to him about this many times so please dont tell me to talk to him about it*
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Could he be hiding some sexual problems like ED? I really think there is no valid excuse to avoid sex with one's partner for an extended period of time (unless they are seriously ill) Denying sex to a partner is as bad as cheating in my opinion. Even when one doesnt feel like having sex, they should do it for the partner's sake becoz sex is the basis for a relationship and relationships are about giving. Anyways if he doesnt try to do anything even after you have talked to him about it many times, I am afraid you cant do anything about this. It is HIS problem and he has to be willing to work it out. You have to decide if you could go on like this or you wanna breakup with him. If my wife is doing this to me, I would tell her I would consider cheating on her if she wont change.
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reader, This_face  +, writes (24 December 2008):
No problem. It doesn't really matter to your question anyway. If you and your partner both agree there are doctors you can go see in order to get medical assistance with the issue. It is possible from what I know that it could be a medical issue with your husband and not something you have done or not done. As you have talked to him, he must be aware of the issue. My advice would be to seek medical help unless there is something your hasband has to suggest or unless you simply wish to wait and see how things go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes, it is, and my husband is 33 if that helps.. i turn 18 in jan. but i am very mature for my age, so if you could put the age out of ur mind that would be cool, everyone tends to judge, and understandably, but i just want everyone to forget about the age and answer the question if at all possible....
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reader, This_face +, writes (23 December 2008):
Just wondering, is your age correct? Not to be rude, I'm just wondering.
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