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writes: I was fiddling around the net and I googled my bf secret email address: I found out he commwnted an erotic pic on an amateur porn website stating how beautiful that woman was and telling her to email him, if she wanted to. I don't even know how I sould feel about this. Is this even normal? Am I overreacting? I don't feel like confronting him as I don't want him to think I am a controlling freak (am I?) who googles his secret email address. What sould I do?
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reader, Usedndabused1  +, writes (3 February 2013):
Personally i think its a BAD sign...I have been in a relationship with my Man for 16 yrs. we have a Son his ONLY Son and all along I have known about his pornography habit. Although I ONLY thought he was "just looking" throughout the 16 yrs. He managed to aquire 1,000's of websites to buy sell and post ads for girls to contact his email address for an audition !!!... Meanwhile in our bedroom we were making our own video's and jokingly I told him we could make alot of money with this stuff !!... Loling his ass all the way to his wallet !!! Well he left me as soon as I found data on his iphone.... Telling Family and Friends its bcuz she's not working !!Now our little boy and i are almost homeless because yes I wasn't working I was a Mother Wife Friend Lover etc...... DONT FALL FOR ANYTHING U DONT THINK U COULD TELL UR PARENTS ABOUT !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): i will like you to start with a funny conversation and ask him that which porn sites he visit:)
than tell him in laugh that his email you found on a porn site and how he was asking to contact that porn actress.. and see his face...
forgive him.. i also write emails to porn actresses and that doesnt mean you are cheating your wife..
see it this way, some girl may see a porn actor naked and than they email him,.. so its just this way... actually noone is actually serious in the online world..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): This has become a huge problem with relationships. More people start flirting and having sexual chats with people online, even though they have a partner in real life. This all depends on how you feel. Forget about seeming controlling or how he feels, if you have a problem with this, then you need to tell him. I dont know if he is just having dirty chats online, or if he might be trying to meet someone and hook up with them in person. If you dont feel right and you dont like him going behind your back and doing this, then you need to bring it up. If he isnt willing to stop and doesnt respect how you feel, then you need to break up with him. You dont deserve to be with someone, if he is going behind your back, chatting with other people, and doing things like that. If it was just friends and people he might never meet in person, then thats one thing, but people from porn sites with only one purpose in mind, thats another. You do what you feel is best and what will make you the happiest.
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (28 July 2010):
Firstly there is nothing wrong with him going to a porn site however the fact that he has a secret email address and has tried to get a ammature porn start to email him is a little worrying.
I would like to know who long you have been together, if you have been together a long while then you should have the trust there and their shouldnt be any secrets. what he has done is betray that trust and I would confront it.
Maybe not go completely mad at him but discuss it with him and find out why.
if you are still in the early stages of the relationship then I would probably suggest not mentioning it because it would look like you are checking up on him and beeing needy and at an early stage of a relationship you dont really have this right.
I hope it works out for you both.
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