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writes:So me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 1 and a half years and we have been having sex for about 4 months. So one day I was round his house and as his parents were out and we thought we would have sex. But in the middle of it his parents walked in and saw it all. Then I left his house and I havnt been back alone with him since. Me and my boyfriend have talked over what happened and he said his parents were really angry at him. My parents and I are close so they knew I was having sex and we had the whole safe sex talk, but my boyfriends parents were the same as mine and already knew. What can I do when we first started going out he said that they liked me but now they look at me like im not good enough for him especially his mum ? I understand that they must have been angry at the time but time has passed. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): I forgot to mention it was in his room, but as they were supposed to be away for the weekend so we didn't lock the door
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reader, Battista +, writes (9 April 2011):
Did they walk into your bf's bedroom and see you two, or were you in a communal space? I can't tell from your post.
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (9 April 2011):
It's the Mother-in-Law syndrome. This is going to sound odd, but is true. Mothers have a curious attachment to their sons, and feel that any woman sexually involved with him is a harlot stealing the little innocent whose widdle bumbum mummy used to kiss when changing him. Comparing experiences with my friends as a teenager confirmed this, (none of our mothers had anything good to say about our girlfriends) and now that I'm much older I have seen the same pattern among mothers my own age who have teenage sons. (The fathers, of course, are all for it, except when it involves their daughters!) There's nothing you can do but hold your head up and continue doing what is no-one else's business.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): I was in the situation you are in now at one point. After time had passed me and my boyfriends mother were alone and I asked her why her opinion of me had changed. She then told me it had not changed but what she had seen made her see me in a different light. I asked her if she though I was a "slut" she replied now but saw me as an adult and almost as a threat as she thought it would not be long after that I "took her son away'Maybe this is the problem with your partners family. The chances are they were sexually active at your age also and do not look down upon you for it but see it more as their son is growing up and will soon be flying the nest. It may be jealousy? I would not worry too much if they liked you then they will like you now sex doesn't change people. It is not possible to have open discussions everybodies situation is different but unless the are overly religious I doubt that their veiw of you as a whole was damaged by this. Good luck x
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