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writes:Dear Cupid,Last month, I turned seventeen. My boyfriend of almost seven weeks will turn fourteen in March. Despite the age difference, we have a GREAT relationship. He seems to always know what to say whenever it feels like my world is crashing and burning all around me. He's very mature for his age, and I sometimes think he's more intelligent than I am, as he has used words that I don't know the meaning of and have had to ask him what they meant...and seeing as how I kind of have a reputation among my friends for being like a "walking dictionary", that's pretty shocking...lol. He also has more experience in dealing with relationships than I do, believe it or not. He is only my second boyfriend, whereas I am around his sixth girlfriend. Let's just say he's kissed quite a few lips besides my own. As an added plus, my parents like him, and his parents (who are in the same situation we are as far as the age difference is concerned) like me. There's just one thing that's kind of got us both biting our nails a little bit: they seem to think that I intend to take his virginity from him...because, as it has been said many times before, girls apparently mature faster than guys. Truth be told, I have NO intention of taking his or giving him mine. I don't believe in sex before marriage (that isn't the way God intended for it to be), and I have promised my parents (and, more importantly, God) that I'm going to stay pure until my wedding night. He knows this, and has assured his parents that sex is not on my to-do list at this point in my life. But they don't seem to believe him. They don't plan on making us break up unless we actually do go off and have sex, but still...I hate that they're worrying about something that they don't have to be worried about. How can I ease their minds?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): just keep reminding them, you could also get purity rings and do that whole thing(sorry i dont knwo to much about the whole process though)and hopefull that will help. Im in the bit of the same situation but im not to worried about what his parents think, although hes the older one. as long as we know that it dosent matter to us.
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reader, confessjess +, writes (17 December 2008):
 I would suggest some sort of promise or purity ring to show them that you have made a promise to god that you intend to remain pure until you marriage night. It might help put them a little more at ease especially if they see you or their son wearing them all the time.
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